tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9093431478852987540.post5566032567332496992..comments2023-04-28T02:53:01.693-07:00Comments on Gone To Carolina: Flying SoloDaniellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08516872501907703873noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9093431478852987540.post-10811674049469546442011-06-13T08:03:26.544-07:002011-06-13T08:03:26.544-07:00I totally agree that feeling whole within yourself...I totally agree that feeling whole within yourself is what we SHOULD strive for, but I think that many people believe that they need to find things outside themselves to achieve it, so they pin their hopes on things, which is why I so often hear "When I lose weight I will" or "When I get married I will" or "After I find the perfect job I will" and then the weight is lost or the marriage takes place or the job is attained and people are shocked and dismayed to find that they are not happy. That life still isn't perfect. That they are the same person, only now they wear a smaller dress size, have a spouse, or work harder than they anticipated but otherwise, nothing has changed (except that now they're super depressed, because they thought they had entered a magical land and it turns out to be ... the same place they were). It's unfortunate, and so sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9093431478852987540.post-7222086599612754522011-06-13T07:21:02.683-07:002011-06-13T07:21:02.683-07:00Feeling whole within yourself is what we all striv...Feeling whole within yourself is what we all strive for. After being married for nearly 41 years, I can assure you a partner never completes me. Nor do I complete him. I think of us like salt and pepper shakers. We look nice together on a table, but in cooking and eating, there are many times the shakers are used separately. I never put salt on a pizza but might add a little pepper. I might use salt in making cookies, but have never added pepper. Sure, we present the salt and pepper shakers together to the world but that is habit and artistic design more than anything else. Yes, there are foods where they are used together, too, but this always varies. Right now, I need to lower my BP so am using much less salt...lol. Life is always changing. BTW, there are people who NEVER taste their food BEFORE putting salt and pepper on it. I see this analogy as folks who jump into marriage just because they have the idea that is what should be presented to the world....two things placed together. How much better is it to know one's own tastes BEFORE using the shakers at all? JMHOLiz Vosenoreply@blogger.com