Monday, November 12, 2012

Having What I Want

I am prone to revelatory moments. This probably sounds exciting, but it's not. They're never revelations like "Here are the winning lottery numbers!" or "It's TRUE! George Clooney's life IS empty without me!" and are always more like "OOOOOHHHHH. I'm totally doing this wrong."

Try not to be jealous.

My latest moment of "Oh, right, I'm a bit of a dolt" came as I was standing in the frozen foods section at my grocery store, lamenting the fact that they don't appear to carry a blend of veggies that were readily accessible in North Carolina.

I thought "But they don't have what I want!"

And then, moment of revelation.

(I know, it's weird how they strike.)

Anyway, the revelation is this:

In moments where you're faced with not having what you want, you can:

1) change what you have. Which means, you have to work for it. Maybe I needed to go to a different store. Maybe I needed to explore other options -- could I order the veggies online, somehow? Could I make the veggie blend by combining existing blends?  Was there a way to manifest this in my life?

2) Change what you want. What, exactly, was I looking for? Did it NEED to be that VERY blend of vegetables? Could I use something else? What if I just used ONE kind of veggie instead of a blend? What if I tried something different?

It occurs to me that this is how I need to live my life.

If I don't have what I want, I need to either change what I have (create an environment of possibilty so that having that thing -- whatever it might be -- can become a reality) OR change what I want (examine my desires and determine if what I think I am yearning for is necessary or if it represents -- and can be replaced by -- something else that is obtainable).

In either scenario, however, I have stuff to do, right? Other than whining about not having what I want, which is irritating to other people as well as being a waste of energy and air. the key word in both modes of behaviour is CHANGE. Change what you have, which can be time consuming and requires effort. Change what you want, which can be time consuming (self examination sometimes is) and requires effort.

Change is in the air, I've noticed.

As for the frozen veggies -- I changed what I wanted. Instead of wanting the fancy veggie blend, I realized that I just wanted a couple of the components of that blend, all of which were readily on hand. Problem solved.

Maybe my next revelation could take place in the bakery, though. It's warmer over there.


  1. “If one's life is simple, contentment has to come. Simplicity is extremely important for happiness. Having few desires, feeling satisfied with what you have, is very vital: satisfaction with just enough food, clothing, and shelter to protect yourself from the elements. And finally, there is an intense delight in abandoning faulty states of mind and in cultivating helpful ones in meditation.” --Dalai Lama

    1. Well, I'm certainly not going to argue with His Holiness. :)

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